The One Secret Ingredient to a Really Successful Divorce

Australia’s leading social psychologist and commentator, Hugh Mackay, has a new book titled The Way We Are: Lessons from a Lifetime of Listening. In it, Mackay highlights research suggesting that what truly made us homosapiens successful as a species is somewhat ironically, our vulnerabilities and our ability to be kind and compassionate to each other.

Mackay argues that kindness, cooperation, and compassion are in fact our natural states. While it's easy for individuals and societies to deviate and engage in unkind activities, such as wars and prejudice, there is a better way. He concludes in the chapter titled "The Survival of the Kindest": “No one can guarantee that a life lived for others will bring you a deep sense of satisfaction. But it is certain that nothing else will.”

Kindness is a challenging concept for those facing separation or divorce. However, after 40 years as a family lawyer, I can assure you that adopting an attitude of kindness and cooperation leads to the best possible resolutions. It's tempting to adopt an adversarial approach, especially when hurt and bad behaviour is involved. Lawyers are ready to assist in these adversarial battles, but such a path often comes at a high emotional and financial cost—to you, your children, and everyone involved.

There is a better way. Many lawyers can attest that clients who choose fairness, cooperation, and kindness end up with the best outcomes. Choose kindness, and you'll find success in your divorce journey.

Andrew Corish BA LLB, Accredited Specialist Family Lawyer
Principal of Modern Divorce Solutions
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