🌟 The First Secret to Separation Success 🌟
If you are going through a Marriage or Relationship Separation, it may be your first major break-up and you don’t know what to do or who to turn to. In my 32 years practising exclusively as a family law specialist lawyer, I have observed close hand many thousands of separations. I have seen who succeeds and who has a dreadful time. These are the six magic ingredients most likely to lead to a good result. This is secret #1.
Secret #1: Control your negative emotions.
This can be really difficult. People often end relationships with a great deal of anger and resentment. It may seem natural to continue these emotions into the separation process. You are often encouraged to do so by family members and friends. There is an army of lawyers out there ready to assist you take an aggressive, argumentative and distrustful approach towards the other party and into the negotiation process if you want to do so. This may seem quite satisfying at first. To have someone insult and belittle your former partner on your behalf and make his/her life more difficult.
But there are three major factors why you should not do this.
Firstly, it is likely to Cost you a Great Deal. Is that where you want to spend a significant proportion of your hard-won assets, on lawyers’ fees and court costs? These rise exponentially as the dispute worsens, particularly if you take it to court. Do you really want to do this, rather than spend it on yourself and your family? Your lawyers will be grateful if you lose perspective and spend an inordinate amount of money in a vendetta against the other party. But you are unlikely to feel happy about it.
Secondly, taking an aggressive approach is likely to cause terrible damage to a lot of people. It is usually disastrous for the welfare of any children involved, if they witness such anger and aggression and particularly if they become involved in it. It can cause a lot of unhappiness for the other party. Is that really what you want? Also it is likely to have a detrimental effect on your own welfare, and cause depression and anxiety, if you are involved in a long-running, unpleasant, bitter dispute.
The Third Factor is that it usually doesn’t work. It tends to cause the other party to act in an equally bad or worse way towards you. Anger and aggression rarely lead to a good solution.
So that is the First Secret Ingredient to a Successful Separation. If you want one, control your negative emotions and don’t bring them to the table.
Andrew Corish, Modern Divorce Solutions. Author of E-Book “The New Way to a Successful Separation.”
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