How To Avoid Becoming Stereotypical ‘Divorce Barbie’ (or Ken)
Divorce or separation is not perfect like Barbie Land. It does not come with a seamless ‘Dreamhouse’ settlement or parenting arrangement, consistently positive communication exchanges or a family lawyer who is focussed only to uplift you.
Instead, it’s a stormy, bitter, and expensive battle when a marriage or relationship ends. Emotions run wild, with fear, anger, and resentment taking the lead, leaving us vulnerable and exhausted.
To make matters worse, well-meaning friends and family advise us to take a strong defensive stance to protect our interests. And sometimes, we end up with lawyers who, whilst advising to negotiate, are very willing to support clients if they wish to be unreasonable and over-competitive. They thrive on taking a passive-aggressive approach on their behalf, and being mistrustful and try to dominate the situation. It's a recipe for disaster, and it's no wonder things spiral out of control.
Of course, the other party responds in kind, escalating the conflict and increasing its financial and emotional toil. In the worst cases, the whole situation ends up in court, resulting in high costs and great anguish for the parties involved and before you know it, you are “Stereotypical Divorce Barbie/Ken”.
I firmly believe that this prevailing approach is a mistake — a misguided path that lacks any basis or justification.
As part of a growing group of forward-thinking lawyers, I refuse to participate in this destructive cycle. Taking an aggressive and negative approach rarely leads to success, leaving those who pursue it with many regrets.
Fortunately, there exists a far superior alternative for navigating the challenges of separation. It begins by embracing a positive and practical mindset from the outset. Also encouraging the other party to do the same.
By seeking a mutually beneficial solution and adopting an open and cooperative attitude, it is possible to place everything on the table for discussion and avoid becoming “Stereotypical Divorce Barbie/Ken”.
Assisting the parties to understand the facts and the legal entitlements and their obligations becomes the central objective. As far as possible the parties themselves retain control of their own matter. They are supported and assisted by their own experienced family lawyers, committed to facilitating this process. Engaging with the other party and inviting their participation for the collective benefit of everyone involved, can set the stage for a transformative experience.
Sound too good to be true? It's not.
Achieving a happy divorce is within reach—it just requires a little organisation and commitment on your part.
This is part of my upcoming book on “The Happy Divorce”. I'll guide you through the maze of family law disputes and provide the knowledge and advice you need to reach an outstanding outcome. Imagine resolving your issues with pride and satisfaction, setting the stage for a brighter future—for both you and your children.
Why am I doing this? Because I really want to help people involved in the crisis of separation and to transition to a new chapter in their lives. I'm here to offer practical insights, strategies, and a friendly hand to support you in achieving a Happy Divorce.
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